70+ Date Ideas

Maggie & Taralynn, here are the date ideas that we chose from! Also here is a link that I saw on pinterest of ideas (there is a little overlap). The first 35 below are the stay-at-home dates. And sorry that some of these are specific to Salt Lake. Miss you guys!

Take a virtual tour of a museum

Make a music video

Make dessert together

Play indoor tag

Make a fort and tell scary stories in it

Order in and have a candlelight dinner somewhere in your house where you wouldn't normally eat

Play a game of indoor basketball horse but up with creative and romantic things you can do each time you miss a shot and get a letter

Plan your dream vacation together

Decide on a political issue to write to your local representatives about

Do a service project date for each other

Watch old home videos

Plan an indoor herb garden

Bubble bath for two with candles and music

Do a home improvement project together

Play video games together

Write favorite memories in a journal together

Have a themed night: fondue, French movie, and French-kissing!

Write and illustrate a children’s book together for our kids

Rent a dramatic movie, watch on mute, and narrate what they are saying

Sculpt some ice cream

Play Twister in lingerie 

Roast marshmallows over a candle in the living room

Work on our bucket lists

Research companies and invest in one

Make a collaborative painting

Play a board game

Have an indoor beach party

Research parenting techniques

Pick a family scripture

Make family rules for our kids in the future

Play with silly string in the backyard

Go see a live band at a local bar or coffee shop

Go clubbing

Go to the dollar store and buy each other gifts

Go to an arcade

Go to a play

Visit a nursing home and hand out flowers to everyone

Take a walk

Go to a festival

Try a new type of cuisine

Go to a farmer’s market

Attend a class together – pottery, painting, etc.

Go antiquing

Go ice-skating

Go hiking

Ride go-carts at the speedway

Go to an art gallery

Attend a soccer game (Rio Tinto!)

Volunteer at a homeless shelter or soup kitchen

Mountain biking

Bowling

Walk through the Red Butte Gardens

The Tracy Aviary

Clark planetarium

Go to a fun convention

Go to the antique auto museum

Hill Airforce base

Go out to dinner

Drive to a secluded spot to make-out

Go to Lagoon and hold hands in line and kiss on the Ferris wheel

See some improve or stand-up

Be a secret helper to a neighbor

Doorbell ditch someone with treats

Go ice blocking

Have a bonfire with friends

Race toy boats down a river

Go shooting

Play red-neck/white-trash bingo at Walmart

Weekly Date

Last night Brad and I planned out what we were doing for date night for every week of this year. I am so excited! Half of the dates are stay-at-home dates so we don't have to get a baby-sitter as often, but at least on those nights we will be doing something fun that was planned in advance that is more interactive than just watching a movie. I know that since these dates are on the calendar we are at least 70% more likely to go on a date every week. Feel free to check up on us later to see if we are following the plan. When you are trying to accomplish a goal it helps when tons of people know what you are trying to do so you feel like even more of a fool when you don't do it :)

Another great thing about these dates is that these plans don't even include all the fun activities we are going to do as a family during the year. And we haven't even mentioned vacations yet! That is the next thing I want to plan out. Making fun plans is the best!

Avery's Stomach Flu

This week has been rough.  Avery has had the stomach flu which led to her having to stay the night at Primary Children's hospital because she was so dehydrated.

She started having the weirdest poos of all time 3-4 times a day on Monday or so and stopped wanting to eat solids. This continued for a couple days until she started vomiting.  She threw up 8 or 9 times in 24 hours and her diarrhea increased to 5 times a day. Every time I would get her to nurse she would puke it up. Then she just stopped being willing to nurse. Maybe I am writing about this too soon after the fact. Simply remembering these details makes me start sweating with anxiety. But everything is fine now. But still my heart rate is literally elevated just thinking about this whole experience.

Anyway, on Thursday morning I was on the verge of taking her to the emergency room because she hadn't had a wet diaper in over 8 hours but I got in to see the doctor right away and the office is attached to the hospital so I took her to the pediatrician. Unfortunately her normal doctor was out but we saw someone else in the group. She pretty much said that Avery still looked pretty alert and that I could just to watch her really closely for a couple more hours and see if I could get her to drink any Pedialyte or anything else and hope she would pee soon. Avery was able to eat a Pedialyte popsicle and didn't throw it up immediately.  So I was encouraged.  But that afternoon she threw up again and we called the doctor and she told us took take Avery to the ER.

By this time the huge snow storm had blown in and the roads were covered in snow so we decided to go to Lakeview Hospital in Bountiful since it was closer. We slid all the way to the hospital and I totally thought we might not make it. Good thing we have 4-wheel drive. We were admitted really quickly and the ER doctor gave us the option of choosing between giving Avery some Zofran to stop the vomiting and help with her nausea to see if she would drink then, or to put an IV in her to give her fluids that way. We decided to start with the Zofran because we knew that getting the IV in would be really hard and she would cry a ton. 

The Zofran seemed to help, we got her to drink approximately 7 oz of fluids and so then they tried to do a catheter on her to get a urine sample to check levels of dehydration and for infection (which can sometimes cause vomiting). The nurse doing it however, was way incompetent. He didn't even know which hole to go in even though he was poking around and making her scream while we held her down.  He stopped trying pretty quickly but I kind of wanted to kill him. We got a urine sample with a U-bag in her diaper instead.  Literally like one drop came out.

The results of the urine sample showed no infection but she was a 4+ on a scale of 1 to 4+ of dehydration. So we decided to do an IV. None of the nurses could even see a vein to go into though. At least 6 nurses checked. One nurse tried to find one in her arm and dug around in there with a needle for awhile. It didn't work. So a nurse from the nursery part of the hospital came in and tried to find a vein in her head for a long long time.  At least 20 mins of looking for veins visually and 10 mins with an actual needle in her head. Avery was screaming while they were even just looking for veins not to mention when they were digging around in her arm and head with needles. I had to take a break from helping to restrain her through all of this.  I couldn't do it anymore. But I came back and was mostly able to keep from crying. 

Anyway, they failed.  So they sent us home at 11 pm with an absolutely exhausted and traumatized baby and some Zofran in hopes that it would keep helping her to drink. Brad gave Avery a blessing of healing with our neighbor and his sweet wife brought us dinner. Then they shoveled our walkway and driveway at that hour on top of that. They are the sweetest.

Avery slept through the night and the next morning wouldn't eat again and there were still no wet diapers. I called her doctor practically hysterical.  He told us to take her to Primary Children's and to leave immediately. He called ahead to tell them we were coming but still it took forever for them to call our name and take us back.  Once we were in our little room, it took forever again for a doctor or even a nurse to even come talk to us. They were busy. We kept seeing stretchers with car-seats or little people on them being wheeled in. It put dehydration in perspective a little. Anyway. 

Once it was our turn they were pretty quick. They reassured us that if the nurses in the ER were unsuccessful at placing an IV they a special team whose only job is to put IV's in babies, and they would for sure be able to do it.  So the nurses worked on here while we again had to be the ones holding her down. This time it went a lot better. They had a special light that they shone through the bottom of her hand so they could see the veins inside.  They got it in pretty much on the first try. But she screamed through everything of course. Brad was the one that cried this time.  I was just so relieved that the IV was in that my happiness overrode the sadness. Avery fell asleep in my arms more quickly this time than the time at Lakeview. Crying that hard is exhausting but you could tell that this time was less traumatic.  They gave her a teddy bear when it was over. It was a really nice gesture. It makes me grateful for whoever donated it to Primary Children's.

We waited for several hours while the fluids went into her and her blood was tested. We totally thought we were going to be able to go home soon after that. We were really surprised when the doctors recommended that we stay the night based on her blood work. Her blood sugar was low and there was acid in her blood indicating that her body has started using its reserves awhile ago to fuel itself so they wanted to get her out of that pattern and give her glucose in the IV through the night.

Lauren came to visit and bring us some Wendy's which was really nice.  The hospital provided some toothbrushes and some white sweatpants and tan t-shirts for us to sleep in. We didn't want to drive through the continuing snow storm to get stuff for the night from home. We had a gangham style dance party to lighten the mood in our super stylish pj's.  Avery smiled at us but looked like she didn't get the joke when when we were laughing at ourselves. The night went pretty well. Avery got some pretty good sleep despite nurses coming in all the time to do things. I slept in a recliner that opened up almost flat and Brad slept on this little couch thing.

In the morning Avery looked really puffy but she had a really good nursing session so they released her.  She has continued to have a good appetite and hasn't thrown up since.  Just one case of diarrhea, but overall she is getting back to normal today.

I am so grateful for modern medicine.  And so grateful to God for his help in all of this. It was pretty awful.  I am just so glad that it seems to be over!  

Jane Eyre: Where have you been all my life?

I will tell you where Jane Eyre has been all my life - right in front of my face. And i just simply didn't read it. Now that I have read it I realize what a true tragedy this is. I could have been in love with this book my whole life! Oh, the wasted years.

As soon as I finished reading the book I decided I had to see the movie. Because the most recent (and best from what I hear) film will not be available to me until February 1st, I made do with the 1996 version. It was not up to snuff in my opinion. I enjoyed it a little, but I have high hopes for the other one.

I will say give one more piece of eveidence that I really loved this book before I finish blabbering.  As I have probably mentioned before on this blog before, I get really caught up when reading a good book. I have been known to stay up almost all night. Well Jane Eyre was so absorbing I literally made myself sick by forgetting to eat while I was reading all day. Whoops. I really get way too involved in good books. But seriously, it was so good that I don't know how I could have prevented myself from being so obsessed!  I already have already started reading it again. Well at least my favorite parts.

As a side note, I read it on my phone for free! There are tons of free classic books available through the kindle app.  It is really nice.  I recommend trying it if you haven't yet.

Christmas Break Photos

I loved, loved, loved all the time that we got to spend at my parent's house for Christmas. Avery and I were there for two full weeks and Brad met us after a few days of being on a business trip so he was there for 10 days. Everyone was able to some this year, and it was so much fun! I love all the pictures of the bonding between cousins, and of my grandparents with the babies.  Because of health problems, this was the first time that they had been able to meet most of the babies in the family.

Oh my word.

This is when Avery and Brad were reunited after being apart for  four days.

I love the Christmas outfit my Mom got Avery!

Grandma got the boys a lego table, but Avery also seemed to enjoy it!

Christmas morning

This is me crying when I opened the gift that Brad made me.  We did homeade gifts for each other and his was so sweet!

Exercising her female right to be a drama queen. 

Four generation photo.

They were all sick of the picture taking.

I'm so glad that my grandparents were able to come!  

2013

I am really excited for this year because it is going to be so different from the past seven years of my life. Not that the past seven years haven't been awesome, but 2013 will be the first time in my adult life that I won't have any major life events happening. For the past seven years, I have been moving constantly, I have been in and out of relationships, I have graduated, started a career, gotten married, gotten pregnant, Brad graduated, we had a baby, I ended my career and we moved again. In seven years the only constant in my life has been change. This will not be true in 2013. I have no major life events to look forward to or be stressed about.

I am thrilled by this prospect! I absolutely love my life exactly how it is right now, and am so glad that the major things in it are going to be constant. Nothing is going to change. As I have been trying to decide what my goals will be for the year, this lack of change is giving me a sense of freedom in what I will be able to accomplish during all of this blissful domestic stability. I feel like I can do anything I want.

And out of everything there is to choose from what do I want to do, you might ask? Anti-climactically, I would reply that I do not know.  I want to do too many things, that is for sure. I feel like that girl on Never Been Kissed, who, when asked by Drew Berrymore's character what she wants to do with her life, goes off on a list of million things. I just don't know which things to choose. It is hard when you have too many interests and there is only so much time in a year.

I will tell you what I don't want to do.  I don't want to waste time by doing a million things but each only a teeny bit. I want to have focus and purpose with the things that I dabble in. So that is my goal.  Make this year purposeful. I want to purposefully plan what I am going to do in advance. Schedule all the awesome, fun things I want to do so that I make sure that they happen and I am not looking back on this golden opportunity that is 2013 wondering how I could possibly have gotten so distracted by Pintrest and The Mentalist. Although I do love those things. And they are so diverting.

I think I need to buy a planner.

Happy New Year!